Did you ever have the dubious honor of being a member of a club that you never wanted to join?? In fact, if truth be told, you were so anti this particular club that you spoke out vehemently against it, judged those who were in it, and went about your day in a little bubble insulating yourself from it.
But then IT happened. That event that chipped at your bubble, and made you start looking around to see that the life you thought you had sowed, invested in, and created and loved was something very different. But you can’t give up. You can’t join that club, because that’s quitting and we just do not quit. (Because that’s where those club members are from – not trying hard enough; not working; giving up). So you keep fighting to save what you had. But that chip in the bubble – it let in air – air that you had been devoid of for the better part of your adult life. Fresh air…… and that oxygen enriched air reached your brain (slowly because remember, this was a CHIP in the bubble – not a hole) and you started to remember things about yourself from before. Before you wore the many hats you wear today; before you spent so much time cultivating the life you thought you had; before you ever thought that you could lose yourself so completely.
So you fight to regain the equilibrium. Except with the fresh air you realize going back to the old ways wasn’t going to work. So you try to do it differently; you try to find that balance between the two ways. And you push heartache aside, and resentment, and anger, and try to find peace and happiness, and maybe love…. Or even like on most days. The more you try though the more distance is created. Everyone around you sees that you’re fighting a losing battle, but you can’t listen to those people – they’re giving up too! Don’t they see??? If this fails, I FAIL. I cannot fail at yet ANOTHER thing in my life. That’s been the name of my adult game. Don’t they get it???
But that chip grows daily…. letting in more and more air. And with each deep breath and the active practice of reacquainting myself with me I wasn’t content with the status quo. I now knew without a doubt that I held the reigns – if I could just go back to behaving the way I did BEFORE (the event, not the bubble…) then I would have my life back. Except, I also knew it wasn’t that simple because obviously there wasn’t the happiness and contentment in the true before picture or the IT wouldn’t have happened.
So here I sit. I’m watching the final crumbling pieces of that world fall down, and extricating myself from my now almost fully deflated bubble. I’m actively facilitating the unthinkable and becoming a proud vocal member of that club. I’m embracing my failures and looking ahead because, if this experience is teaching me nothing else, it is telling me that my future holds so much more promise than my past ever would have let me experience. BRING ON TOMORROW!